From Self-Abandonment to Self-Compassion: Embracing the Not-Okay

It’s kind of wild—my whole life, I knew how to be okay. I was good at it. I could brush things off, shift into love and kindness almost effortlessly. That was my default. My survival skill.

But for the first time, I’m learning what it means not to be okay—and to be okay with that. To sit in discomfort without trying to fix it or sugarcoat it. To let myself feel what needs to be felt without rushing toward peace.